How to change your life
We all want to be a little better than it really is. self improvement - a complex art that requires daily work on yourself.
It's like gymnastics, only Gymnastics of the soul and thoughts, Not the body. Practice every day, and you yourself will not notice how you will begin to be transformed for the better. Start right now to get a brilliant result!
How to improve your life
- Put the bar high.
We often seek to understand other people, we say: "Understand others, treat others as you would like them to treat you ". Everything is correct. But the most difficult, it turns out, is to understand oneself.
Some people, when faced with troubles, begin to get nervous and worried. And suddenly, left alone with him, in silence, they reflect: "Why am I like this?" what's happening? Why can not I live as I want to? "
Many are unhappy with themselves - they feel that moreDid not realize their potential. It is necessary to raise the bar high, then it will want and to achieve more and more. It's not so difficult, if you treat yourself correctly and do not engage in self-deception. In fact, it is impossible to deceive ourselves, but we try to drive away those or other bad thoughts by deceiving ourselves.
"Oh, how bad! Nothing works! " Drank - it's already easier. Or went to the Internet and hung there - and then fell asleep at the computer desk from fatigue. And the thought that things are not going very well are not going to disappear anywhere and from time to time they will remind themselves of themselves. And again loneliness will come and there will be a feeling that no one understands you.
The simplest Tools of self-knowledge - a sheet of paper and a pen. You just need to sit down and keep your diary - every day. Or on the computer to create a file "my diary" and write down what you did, with whom you met, what you thought, what worries you, what you want, what plans.
You will "splash out" thoughts and feelings. Not everyone will tell about themselves: a lot of personal and secret. Yes, and do not tell. But you can write about it. And the more a person writes about himself every day, the better he becomes: he expressed all that was in his soul, looked at himself from the side.
Every day you will not write: "I'm bad, I'm terrible, I can not do anything, I did nothing today!" And with thoughtful introspection there will be enthusiasm and organization. Try every day to analyze your own life. Be yourself in confession, because you can not deceive yourself. is not it?
- Learn to speak in public.
Communication is the basis of everything, the outcome depends on itOur activities: whether we find supporters or not, understand us in the family or not. Do we communicate well with peers, neighbors, friends, colleagues, bosses, subordinates?
How do you communicate? Watch for others and for yourself - tomorrow or today. You interrupt another person when he speaks, for you are already clear, or are you able to listen? My advice: never interrupt another. If you want a person to finish quickly, say nothing. He will definitely stop and say: - "Do you listen to me?" - "yes".
He again begins to tell something for a long time. And again he will ask: - "Do you listen to me?" - "yes". And then, noticing your taciturnity, the interlocutor will try to speak shorter.
Second important observation: The absolute majority of people, unfortunately, do not look into the eyes of the interlocutor when they talk - they hide their eyes, or even turn their heads away. In vain. Observation of the interlocutor helps to evaluate your speech from the outside, and this is very valuable for a person who wants to speak well. If you look into the eyes of the interlocutor prevents shyness, fight it. as? very simple.
Go through the streets of the city today and ask every third person in question: "Can you please tell me what time it is?" After you answer, ask some other question - any, for example: "Can you tell me where you can buy a crocodile in our city?" Everyone will smile. If you do this exercise 50 or 60 times, you will be able to overcome shyness.
So, we communicate on an equal footing, calmly and smoothly. Avoid monotony. Look into the eyes. If we suffer from shyness, and she interferes with communication, we do the exercise.
- Do not be an enemy to yourself.
"Courage" - do you know this word? "He is curious" is an expression with a negative connotation. And on the other hand, the word "courage" means "courage", and the courage of "the city takes".
About an artist who does not work well on the circus arena, they say: "Oh, he does everything perfectly: he is a juggler, an acrobat, and an air gymnast, but he has no courage! He does not show how wonderful and how wonderful, beautiful, everything is perfect for him! " And many people do not have enough courage. They are accustomed to be gray mice masculine and feminine.
In life there must be courage. So that you wake up, get out of bed and realize that the day is yours. If there is courage, everything works out. But, having entered courage, do not go too far. Remember, you must live with pleasure and joy.
Think about courage, think about courage, think about bad habits, think about in what plan you can become better. And life will smile at you.
- Do you need money?
"Where the main thing is money, everything else is not the main thing". A terrific phrase! But there are people who think: you need to earn, earn, earn, receive, receive, receive. "The more money, money, money in one and the other pockets, in one and the other banks, the better I am". Such a person becomes a hostage of money.
But if the main thing is money, then the main thing is not everything.rest. Love - is not it important? Is not that the person you love and who will love you? Family - is not this the main thing? Or vocation, what are you doing?
People are mistaken, thinking that if they have money, then all other problems will be solved.
Of course, the more money, the more comfortable it is to live. But if you give yourself all up just making money, you will lose your own self. You will dissolve.
If you have a business that will entice you,Money will come. You are fascinated - you are interested in making films, composing poems, performing in an ensemble, organizing your theater, publishing books or even making stools. If it's a beautiful stool - then the stools will go. And money will be. You are attracted by the prospect of organizing your company, promoting it, and the main thing for you is not to get money, not to deceive - then the money will come.
Money must be a means, not an end. Means - to dress well, eat deliciously, it is interesting to relax, to provide yourself with comfort, shelter. This should be the attitude to money. And let the money, of course, be more.
But it's important that they never were for youMost important. The main thing is life, and money is only a small part of it. Let your purses be full. But live not for the sake of money, then you will never lose your own "I".
- Do not regret the past.
Every year we become older. Time runs faster and faster ... we do not have time, we are in a hurry, everything is done quickly ... and at a certain day and hour, each of us suddenly realizes: "I did not spend my efforts there, not on that. Where did the time go? How many stupid things I have done ... "
Remember: you can not regret the past. Divorced? All - divorced. Got fired? Do not be sorry - you'll find the best. You did not have time to do something and now you are all regretting this and living in the past? But it's already passed and forgotten.
Set up: "I am strong. I will do it. I will have a new job and a new wife and maybe there will be more children. " Did not receive higher education or school badstudied? And felt sorry that time was gone? do not be sorry. Again enter the university - at any age you can start a new business. Life loves lucky. Lucky you or not, but if you stop regretting the past and give the past a minus rating, you will become a successful person.
- If you feel bad ...
"When you feel bad, find someone who is worse, and help him. You will feel better ". How simple it sounds! But why go and help someone, if it's bad for me?
Wife threw, the children forgot, they kicked out of work -Life is falling apart! everything is bad. But if you find a person who needs your help, if he is worse than you, your misfortunes will go away. Dealing with the pain and problems of another person, you switch and temporarily forget about your difficulties and adversities.
Remember: Negative emotions accumulate, positive - no. Helping another, you experience positive emotions. You helped, you see: your help was needed. You were able, you took part in someone else's fate. When it's bad for you, find someone who's worse, and help him-you'll feel better.
Look around: If there are people you could help, help them, even if it's good for you. You will become even better. Well, if you feel bad, be sure to find such people! Try to act using this rule - and you will get better.
Think about it today. Remember your past. Remember how you were ten or fifteen years ago. Remember all the good, but try to forget the bad. Accustom yourself to think about the good and forget the bad. And never, under any circumstances, scold yourself for the past.
Follow these tips, and you yourself will not notice how your life will change, the mood will rise and A lot of inspiration And plans. Try to follow these tips and help your friends to build their own lives!