6 Tips for Maintaining Discipline
Very often we can not get the children to obey. Sometimes there is a feeling that this is impossible. But the teacher of the lower grades and the mother of four children of the Birn-Biancardi Stephanie are sure of the opposite. And today she will introduce you to 6 techniques that will help to influence children, forcing them to listen to you. these Disciplinary techniques Work equally well in school and at home.
How to improve relationships with children
- Effective discipline is not tied to punishments
Punishment is far from the most basic in the process of establishing discipline. It would be more correct to decipher this term, as the ability to manage the behavior of children.
Discipline is based on the quality of the relationshipA child with a tutor (teacher or parents). If you show attention and care to your children, they develop trust, affection and a desire to be accepted. And this is the basis of good behavior and effective discipline. It is very important to make sure that your relationship is built on mutual respect and responsiveness.
Being a teacher, the stephania of the Birn-Biancardi understood that Daily routine And frequent communication with children is a necessary condition for further joint fruitful work.
For example, when children enter the classroom andGreet, it is important to answer everyone, whatever you are busy at this moment. Because if you do not pay attention to what the child is telling you, you can very quickly gain a distrust on his part.
At home a teacher of junior classes of StefaniaBirn-Biancardi always sets the alarm for 30 minutes before the time when you need to collect a daughter in school. She does this in order to wake her gently, applying in practice the principles of respect, care and responsiveness.
First she turns on the light in her daughter's room andSays that it's time to get up. Then leaves on business and returns in a couple of minutes, after which he takes the blanket and hair from her face and tells her to go to the bathroom. After a while Stefania returns to the bathroom and sees her daughter asleep, sitting on the toilet and propping her head in her hands. She tells the girl to wake up and brush her teeth, then she goes to prepare breakfast.
According to Stephanie, many parents preferPull his child out of bed and force him into the bath. But imagine that something like your second half does to you. So it's not far from the scandal, right?
- Effective discipline is based on positive reinforcement
Positive reinforcement can be expressed with the help of a smile, "give five" or praise.
You need to try To praise a child properly, Avoiding comparing it with others. Better compare it with yourself in the past, talking about how much he has progressed in this or that occupation. Also pay attention to the way you praise. Your tone should be friendly, and praise - sincere, children very thinly feel falseness.
Instead of "well done" or "good boy / good girl" it's better to mark how well, properly, diligently, creatively, interestingly, amicably acted or did something child.
Positive reinforcement can be tangible - stickers, prizes. But to use them better only in extreme cases and not often.
- Effective discipline involves modeling the right behavior
Along with positive reinforcement is very importantModeling of correct behavior. Because it does not matter what you teach your children, they will still behave like you. So if you want your children to be decent, kind, non-aggressive, follow yourself in different life situations. What you say, how you do it, how you behave, how you communicate - children unconsciously read every little thing. So the best thing a caregiver can do for children is to be a good example for them.
Stefaniya Birn-Biankardi talks about the case ofHer life, when in classrooms for kids she sat on the furniture, because she was small. It lasted until she did not notice that her pupil was sitting on the shelf. This case made her reconsider her behavior and get rid of this habit.
- Effective discipline provides good leadership
When you are in charge of children, always try to doIt's straight. Explain why it is necessary to do so, and not otherwise, talk about the reasons, according to which you make decisions about the educational process. Try to communicate your thoughts to the children so that they are as clear as possible.
For example, when the baby Stephanie did not want to go to bed at the right time, she reminded him that last time he had overslept, because he did not go to bed on time.
- Prevention is the most effective form of discipline
Often some problems can be preventedBefore they occur. For example, instead of asking for a thousand times the child not to climb the steps, put a special fence there. Or instead of raising everyone who wants to wash their hands to the washbasin, to put a chair so that the children can do it themselves.
It is very important to plan and think about whatThe consequences may entail one or another of your actions. For example, do not take yourself to the store of a young child at a time when he usually sleeps. Or interrupt the game of the baby and make him abruptly gather to make it to the other end of the city in 20 minutes. Do you really think that he will behave normally in this situation? It is better to save nerves for yourself and your baby and begin to gather in advance.
If you do not want children watching certain channels or climbing some sites on the Internet - block channels or put the program on parental control.
It is better to warn the child in advance that soon you will start doing something else or going to leave so that the baby can tune in and smoothly finish his studies.
- When nothing works, use a temporary suspension
In class or at home should be quiet cozyCorners, where children are sent, when they behave inadequately, so that they think and calm down. The child should be there no more than that number of minutes, how old he is, only if he does not want to stay longer.
You can arrange a similar corner of the sofa or a soft chair, put there pacifying things, dolls, a drawing board, a designer, a puzzle, a photo album or several books.
After the period of stay isThe child needs to be asked if he knows the reason why he was sent here, if not, then explain and then help find the best ways to solve the problems that have arisen.
This method works better than negative reinforcement - punishments, flip flops and swearing. The latter works only at first, then the child gets used to them.
Take these several secrets to help them significantly improve relations with children, which will undoubtedly have a positive impact on discipline. parenting Is a very difficult matter, and sometimes it takes a long time to come up with the right approach. Do not worry, if something does not work out, try and you will achieve your goal.
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