Happy Family Life
Love ... there is hardly a similar phenomenon in life that would begin with the same high hopes and expectations and that would invariably fail, ending in bitter disappointment.
Quiet family life, Happy and calm - the dream of many women. There are men who also crave it. Why do so many children grow up in inferior families, and people who have recently loved each other, parted?
I think we know too little about ourselves, even less -About other people. We were not taught at school, what is love, did not explain what pitfalls a marriage contains. very sorry! All this was worth thinking about 10 years ago.
Happy family life
- No one is obliged to love just like that
it's true. The person with whom you begin a family life is not your baby, whom you love unconditionally. All people change, their feelings change, and absolute, unchangeable love does not exist! You can not just always love a person as much as he loves you.
To save love, you need to work hard. Sometimes you even need to help another person to know you better and to love.
- The most difficult in marriage - 2 years after the birth of the child
This period determines how your family will livefarther. You need to train patience, talk to each other as often as possible, overcome anger and resentment. If you do not learn to do this, while the child is small, further family life will turn into hell.
Do not be shy about asking for help, when you need it, you need to be able to take it. Constantly remind yourself why you are next to this person, Why the choice fell on him. If a young family is difficult to cope with all matters, you can hire assistants, after all! Life should not destroy love.
- Sex - not always in the first place
When the relationship lasts long enough, Sex gradually fades into the background. Do not feel guilty for wanting sex less or, conversely, more than a partner. But the chill in a relationship is a common problem!
If you are not excited by your partner, as in the pastTimes, try to understand yourself. Go to a psychoanalyst, make a photo session with your spouse, find things that excite you, watch an erotic film ... I do not know what turns you on, but do it.
If you are the partner whoConstantly wants more, do not turn into a blackmailer. Add warmth to the relationship, so that a loved one wants to be there by himself! Joint activities, pleasant and exciting, travel, walks - what you need.
- Pleasant little things every day!
"I will never achieve anything good in anythingResults, if I do not do my job disciplined; If I do something, only when I'm "in the mood", it can be a pleasant or fun hobby, but I will never become a master in this art ... " And in fact love is a real art, so Erich Fromm quotes which quote I cite.
What is a pleasant little thing? In addition to fulfilling their duties in the home, there are many things that can be done for the pleasure of the partner. The simplest are to say something good. Once again hug, show your feelings. This is so paradoxical! Sometimes it seems that there are no feelings at all, no love, everything is so tired ... but as soon as you do something for another, caress your soul mate, feelings will reappear!
Why not buy an avocado for your wife if she is hisSo loves? Why not cook for your husband's favorite dish, which is usually on the table only on holidays? Why not massage your loved one? How sad that because of the banal laziness families are being destroyed ...
- Never become someone who is not ready to try for the sake of preserving the family
If one brakes, the other will not be able to help him. Alone you can not build a happy marriage, alas! For this, a mutual desire is necessary.
It will take several years and it will be very insulting to look back and understand that you did not pull your part. Family life - his personal choice. Mature individuals do everything on conscience, work on themselves and on relationships. If you do not want to work, it's better to leave right away and give the partner an opportunity to find someone who will wish it with all your heart for the sake of shared happiness.
- Do not forget to say thank you
We often neglect gratitude in relationships and do not appreciate what another person does for us. Do not even notice! Gratitude is able to strengthen the family and make everyone many happier.
We only know exactly what happened in the past. The future is known only for the fact that somewhere there is looming death. Here is the clarity, which should be based on. If you remember that you are not eternal, that close people are not eternal, then you treat the family quite differently ...
"If love was only a feeling, there would be no reason to promise to love each other forever. Feeling comes and goes! " What do you think about this? Tell us in the comments!